Episode 233 - “When You’ve Had Enough (But Still Want to Love)”

Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob.


Let’s start with a breath.In and out.


And if you’re here today……maybe it’s because you’re exhausted.


Maybe you’ve reached that point where your mind says, “I can’t take this anymore,”but your heart still whispers, “I don’t want to become bitter.”


And that—that whisper?That matters.


Because it meansyou’re still alive in the places that count.


There’s a point some of us reach where we’ve just given too much.


Too much grace.Too much understanding.Too many second chances.Too much silence when we should’ve spoken.Too much energy into people, systems, causes, or relationshipsthat don’t love us back.


And when we finally say, “I’ve had enough,”we almost feel guilty.


As if hitting our limit means we’ve failed to be loving.As if love must mean limitless giving—even when we’re breaking.


But love isn’t martyrdom.


Real love—healthy love—has boundaries.It doesn’t abandon itself to prove its worth.


Let me say this clearly:There’s nothing unloving about reaching your limit.There’s nothing wrong with being tired.


Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stop pouring from an empty cup.


And not just for others—but for yourself.


Because you matter, too.


The version of you that gets drained dry in the name of “being good”is not the version of you that will save the world.


The world needs the version of you that’s whole.The version of you that knows when to say:


“I love you,but I can’t do this right now.”or“I care,but I need rest.”or“I’m not abandoning you.I’m returning to myself.”


Letting go doesn’t mean you stopped loving.It means you started loving wisely.


When you’ve had enough,you might feel tempted to harden.


To put up walls.To burn bridges.To tell yourself, “Never again.”


But here’s something beautiful:You don’t have to become cold to stop the bleeding.


You don’t have to shut off your heart just because others don’t know how to hold it.


You can still be warm.Still be kind.Still believe in love—but do it with wisdom and discernment.


You don’t have to let everyone in just because you’re loving.Not all fires are open campfires.Some are hearths.They burn steadily.Quietly.Safely.


You can be a hearth.


When you’ve had enough,it’s time to check where you’re loving from.


Are you loving from fear?From need?From habit?


Or are you loving from truth?


Loving from truth doesn’t mean you’re always soft.It means you’re aligned.It means you’re not performing.You’re not people-pleasing.You’re not saying “yes” when you mean “no” just to be seen as good.


Loving from truth says:“I will be love,but I will not lose myself to do it.”


If today you’re tired—truly, soul-deep tired—you have permission to rest.


You don’t have to save the world today.You don’t have to be anyone’s miracle today.


Maybe just making tea is enough.Maybe just breathing is enough.Maybe just sitting quietly and remembering who you are—is enough.


Because the version of you that’s still choosing love,even when it hurts,even when you’re tired,even when you’ve been misunderstood—that version of you is a miracle in progress.


And I see you.


You’re not less loving because you’re depleted.You’re not a failure because you reached your edge.You’re human.And love honors that.


So today,love yourself like someone who deserves to be here.Not for what you do—but for who you are.


Because you are enough.Even now.Especially now.


Thank you for listening to Infinite Threads.


If this episode spoke to you, please share it with someone else who might need it.And if today you are struggling to keep loving through your exhaustion—I hope you know this:You are still the thread.Even when it frays.Even when it’s stretched thin.You’re still made of love.


And that is your strength.


Until next time,stay tender.Stay brave.Stay real.And stay open to the thread of love that’s holding you—even when you’ve had enough.


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