Outsourcing Your Emotions: The Hidden Habit That Destroys Relationships

This teaching explores a pattern most of us inherited long before we had words for it: outsourcing our emotions. Many of us grew up with parents who used emotional pressure, guilt, or blame to control us, and without realizing it, we learned to hand over our emotional steering wheel to others. As adults, that conditioning shows up in our relationships—especially with partners who are critical, insecure, panic‑driven, sarcastic, or emotionally volatile.

In this video, we break down what emotional outsourcing really is, why it creates escalating conflict, and how to reclaim ownership of your inner life. You’ll learn how to stay grounded with partners who misinterpret your words, project their fears onto you, or use cutting sarcasm as a shield. This is a practical guide to emotional sovereignty: compassion without entanglement, presence without absorption, and love without losing yourself.

With a little awareness and practice, you can unlearn the old wiring, stop absorbing emotions that don’t belong to you, and navigate your relationships with far calmer waters beneath you.


About Me
I’m Jeseppi — a songwriter, teacher, and lifelong witness to the human condition. Much of my understanding comes from years spent alongside people the world overlooks: sex workers, inmates, and those carrying heavy emotional histories. Their honesty shaped my own. My work now is simple: to speak clearly about the inner life, presence, and the dignity that belongs to every human being.


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