Rabbi Manis Friedman | Marriage, Relationships, Love Myths, | The Edit Alaverdyan Podcast #15

Is love really enough to sustain a marriage? Join us as we delve into this provocative question with the esteemed ‪@manisfriedman‬ . In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the conventional wisdom that love should be the cornerstone of marriage. Rabbi Friedman explains why this belief might actually harm relationships, leaving many couples feeling isolated and disconnected despite lacking overt conflict. Discover the profound insights he shares on the necessity of deeper commitments beyond just love, and understand the true reasons behind a lifelong partnership.

We also tackle the critical human need for meaningful connections and how isolation can lead to debilitating loneliness and anxiety. Rabbi Friedman challenges the Hollywood myth that love is the ultimate cure-all and highlights the importance of being needed in our relationships to counteract self-centric attitudes. We explore how teaching children that life isn't centered on their desires can prepare them for healthier, more selfless relationships in adulthood. This conversation underscores the significance of meaningful, enriching relationships over mere emotional affection.

Our journey continues as we explore the search for purpose in human life, particularly from a religious perspective. Rabbi Friedman guides us through the transformative shift from self-centered questions to understanding what a creator might want from us, offering a new sense of direction. We delve into the objectification of sex in modern marriages and the resulting lack of true intimacy. Learn how emotional connection and vulnerability can rejuvenate your relationship, and why Rabbi Friedman believes that needing someone in your life is far more fulfilling than simply needing something from them. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom and practical advice for anyone seeking to enrich their marital relationship.

00:00 Introduction
02:42 The Fallacy of Love in Marriage
13:03 The Importance of Being Needed
24:25 The Search for Purpose in Humanity
32:00 The Purpose of Being Needed
46:10 Intimacy and Marriage