How Healthy Boundaries Prevent Narcissistic & Psychopathic Manipulation

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This video answers the questions: Can I discuss manipulation and boundaries? What are some signs of manipulation? Healthy boundaries are actually a great defense against manipulation. Even though anybody can be manipulated under the right circumstances, healthy boundaries certainly reduce the chances of that.

Here are some examples of potentially manipulative behavior:

lying
critical, judgmental (pointing out weaknesses)
strong emotions (negative & positive), anger, violent gestures, staring
appearing desperate
being pressured for an immediate decision
use past statements to make you seem inconsistent
gaslighting
arguing after hearing “no”
distorting your words
acting immaturely
trying to bypass reason - “follow your heart” “go with gut feeling”
unclear answers, evasive
superficial charm
avoiding surveillance cameras, onlookers
oversharing in an effort to gain reciprocity (to use it against you)
not reacting to your discomfort or obvious signs of wanting to end the discussion
saying one thing, but doing another
not listening
physical contact when clearly uncomfortable
emphasize a commonality - trying to make a connection
wanting you to do something that is not typical for the kind of relationship you have

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