Narcissist Expert: You're 8 Steps Away From Never Getting F*CKED With Again | Dr Caroline Fleck

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Ever been in an argument where you start to question your own reality? You know your words are being twisted, but suddenly you’re the “crazy” one? Homie, THIS is your episode.

I sat down with Dr. Caroline Fleck, Stanford clinical psychologist, who breaks down how to spot manipulation in real time, shut it down without losing your cool, and finally stop second-guessing yourself.

From the psychology of why toxic people escalate, to the exact moves you can make to validate feelings without excusing bad behavior, Caroline gives you the playbook to stay calm, confident, and unshakable.

Here’s exactly what you’ll learn in this episode:

Why toxic people push harder when you set boundaries.
How to validate feelings without feeding manipulation.
The difference between praise and validation—and why one keeps you trapped.
What to do when helping turns into codependence.
How to build nightly rituals that make you unshakable.


This one’s packed with strategies you can use TODAY to protect your peace, own your voice, and stop being baited, bulldozed, or blamed.

Chapter Titles:
[00:00] The ACCEPTED Method: 8 Steps to Hold Your Ground
[3:47] Attend: How to Stay Focused in Conflict
[10:11] Copy: Why Mirroring Calms the Nervous System
[17:38] Contextualize: Validating Feelings Without Excusing Behavior
[27:35] Equalize: What You Should (and Shouldn’t) Validate
[30:33] Propose: Asking the Questions They Can’t Say Out Loud
[34:46] Take Action: When Helping Becomes Codependence
[40:56] Emote: Authenticity Over Fake Feelings
[44:04] Disclose: Building Trust Without Oversharing
[50:21] Self-Validation Ritual: Confidence That Lasts
[1:04:18] Transforming guilt into forgiveness towards self and others

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