The Hedgehog’s Dilemma: Why Intimacy Always Hurts

"We are driven together by need, and driven apart by pain." — Arthur Schopenhauer

Human relationships are defined by a tragic paradox. We crave connection because isolation feels like freezing to death. Yet, when we get too close to others, we are inevitably hurt by their sharp edges—their traumas, their egos, and their fears.This is The Hedgehog’s Dilemma.

In this video, we explore the philosophy and psychology of distance. We analyze Attachment Theory (the war between Anxious and Avoidant types), Zygmunt Bauman’s concept of "Liquid Love" to explain modern situationships, and Freud’s theory of Repetition Compulsion. We uncover why we chase people who run away, why we run from people who love us, and how to find the "Middle Distance"—the only space where warmth is possible without bleeding.

🦔 What you will master in this documentary:

✦ Schopenhauer’s Parable: The philosophical origin of why intimacy equals pain.
✦ The Archaeology of Spikes: How childhood trauma creates your "Love Style" (Attachment Theory).
✦ The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why opposites attract and then destroy each other (The Chaser-Runner Dynamic).
✦ Liquid Love: Why modern "Situationships" and ghosting are symptoms of pathological independence.
✦ Fear of Enmeshment: Why avoidant partners equate "Love" with "Suffocation."
✦ The Middle Distance: How to use boundaries to create a bridge, rather than a wall.

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