7 Signs You’re Attracted to the Idea of Him (NOT THE REAL HIM)

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The version of him you’ve created in your head isn’t the real him! 💭 You’re attracted to someone who doesn’t even exist!

It’s so easy to project that prince charming persona onto a man we think is attractive. To know very little about who he actually is, but spend your alone time filling in the gaps—imagining scenarios, daydreaming about how he would treat you, how romantic and he must be. If you have a vivid imagination, it’s easy to conjure up a beautiful image of who someone is, even if you barely know them—it’s easy to imagine them to be this amazing person, to overlook the signs that maybe they’re emotionally unavailable, and to obsess over every little moment that drew you to them.

00:00 - coming up
00:59 - the Prince Charming persona
05:17 - daydreaming about him
06:01 - real love
07:08 - sign 1 = imagination not reality
07:42 - sign 2 = you don’t KNOW them
08:08 - sign 3 = gut instinct
08:39 - sign 4 = copying their taste in music
09:41 - sign 5 = you're validation obsessed
12:22 - sign 6 = pressure to be beautiful
13:22 - sign 7 = you don’t feel seen

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