I think it would be easier if he left!

Follow-up: He is in jeopardy of losing his job as it is prohibited for him to date someone he supervises. He is intimate at work and drinks at work with her. He always drank, but it is an entirely different level now. He drinks 2/3 of a 1.75 Liter bottle. He starts drinking at 9 am on weekends. Neither of us have been in limerence before. They became official on social media; it broke my heart finding out. I've asked him to leave the home multiple times. He's said he's leaving for over a year but hasn't yet. He cannot afford our household bills by himself--I can. He doesn't speak to me at all. They go to a hotel; they haven't been on a real date since maybe January. We have three adult children, only the youngest lives at home. I'm wondering if I should stand because I'm heart broken--it's definitely taking a toll on me. I think it would be easier if he left, but I can't force him out. Clingy boomerang? He doesn't speak to me at all. He stays in the basement, says nasty things and blames me for everything.

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