Stop Being Nice at Work, Start Doing This Instead

Are you a manager who's always trying to be nice at work, but feel like it’s getting you nowhere?
In this video, I share the leadership mindset shift that transformed my entire career: stop being nice, start being kind.

Niceness might make you feel liked in the moment, but it’s often about seeking short-term approval, avoiding conflict, and saying yes when you should be setting boundaries. And while that might feel good temporarily, it’s quietly damaging your leadership impact and holding your team back.

This is one of the most important shifts I’ve made in my leadership journey — and I’m walking you through how to make it too.

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✅ Action step: Think of one person you’ve been “nice” to instead of honest with. What needs to be said?
✍️ Comment “kind” if you’re making the shift.

📌 Timestamps:
00:00 – Why being nice isn’t helping
00:18 – What “nice” actually means
01:19 – The problem with sugarcoated feedback
02:25 – What kindness actually looks like
02:50 – Examples of kind leadership
04:00 – The hardest action

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❓ Who am I?
Hey 👋 Between the ages of 21-26, my career journey saw me go from from Assistant Manager in Harrods, playing a key role in scaling a company to £2m+ revenue, exiting for 8 figures, and then moving into an Ops Director role at a FTSE100 Corporate managing 5 different teams.
I have now left the corporate world to teach new managers across the globe the unique frameworks and systems she used to have all these huge career and business successes in her 20s.
I am a public speaker, online educator and sought after trainer in leadership and people excellence.
My vision: A peaceful world where every person find joy in the work they do
My mission: Educate leaders across the globe in how to build fulfilling, empowering and purpose driven organisations