how we saved our friendship: detachment & TRUST

Last month I genuinely thought my best friends and I might be done (yes, we have matching tattoos… the drama). Breakups, new relationships, and a mental health spiral pulled us out of our routines—gym, coffee, even our podcast. This video is the honest story of how we drifted, what helped us hold the line without forcing it, and how we found our way back to a steady, healthy rhythm.

what you’ll find in this video:

how to sit with “space” in friendship without spiraling

the difference between detaching vs. not caring

tiny touchpoints (code words/emojis) that keep connection alive

calling a calm “move-forward” meeting instead of a fix-it summit

rebuilding routines after a rocky season

key takeaways

space isn’t a verdict
healthy friendships can have seasons of low contact without losing value or love.

detach with trust, not apathy
detachment = “i’ll show up for myself and trust timing,” not “i don’t care.”

protect the thread
use quick signals (we use 🦞 = “i’m here but low capacity,” 🍓 = “love you / we got this”) to avoid over-explaining while staying connected.

swap fixing for forward
when you do meet, come with “we’re ready to move forward” energy—not blame, not post-mortems.

rebuild with routines
lightly re-add anchors (gym, coffee, recurring check-ins) to reset the rhythm without forcing intensity.

from codependent → interdependent
you can function solo and still choose each other. self-support makes the friendship stronger.

little kindness over big speeches
small, consistent gestures (“thinking of you,” an emoji, a meme) change the trajectory more than perfect paragraphs.

try this (journal prompt):

“what is in my control today to support myself while this friendship breathes?”

“what’s my one tiny touchpoint that keeps the thread without pressure?”

resources mentioned:

code words / emoji system for low-capacity days

a 20-minute “move-forward” meeting to reset tone & expectations

if this helped:
drop your friendship touchpoint ideas in the comments, or the emoji you’ll use with your people this month 🦞🍓