The Desire to Be Chosen: Why Some Men Over-Give in Relationships | MOTIVATIONAL SPEECH ESTHER PEREL

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In this powerful 20-minute motivational talk, inspired by the wisdom and relational psychology of Esther Perel, we explore why so many men over-give, over-extend, and over-sacrifice in relationships — and how this longing to be chosen often comes from deeper emotional patterns formed long before adulthood.

This speech reveals how men lose themselves trying to earn love, why approval becomes a silent addiction, and what it truly takes to reclaim self-worth without over-performing for affection.

You will learn how emotional neglect, cultural expectations, childhood validation patterns, and hidden insecurities shape the adult relational habits of men who always give more than they receive.
This video is a guide toward healthier boundaries, emotional clarity, and self-respect — without losing your capacity to love deeply.

Whether you are a man who over-gives or someone who loves one, this message will bring clarity, compassion, and transformation.

⏳ Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction: The Hidden Cost of Over-Giving 💔
01:12 – Why Men Feel Responsible for Everyone’s Happiness 🧠
02:45 – The Desire to Be Chosen: Roots in Childhood Validation 👦
04:18 – When Generosity Turns into Self-Abandonment ⚠️
06:02 – Men Who Love Too Hard: The Silent Emotional Pattern 🔍
07:36 – Approval as a Substitute for Connection 🤝
09:10 – The Burden of Being “The Strong One” 💪
10:48 – Why “Nice Guys” Feel Invisible in Relationships 🌫️
12:24 – Over-Giving and Emotional Burnout 🔥
13:58 – The Psychology of Feeling “Not Enough” 😔
15:17 – Reclaiming Healthy Boundaries + Self-Respect 🛑
16:45 – How to Give Without Losing Yourself ❤️
18:10 – Choosing Yourself Without Guilt 🌱
19:20 – Final Message: Love Shouldn’t Cost Your Identity ✨

🌟 WHY WATCH THIS?

You’ll understand why some men over-give and the emotional roots behind it.

You’ll learn how to break the cycle of approval-seeking in relationships.

You’ll discover the difference between healthy giving and self-abandonment.

You’ll gain clarity on hidden emotional patterns men rarely talk about.

You’ll hear a message crafted in the tone of Esther Perel’s insight and depth.

You’ll walk away with practical emotional tools to transform how you show up in relationships.

Perfect for men struggling with being “too nice,” partners wanting to understand them, or anyone exploring deeper relational psychology.

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