#67 | Stop 'Shoulding' On Yourself: The Hidden Cost of Promises You Can't Keep

In this thought-provoking episode of the Hardcore Human Design Podcast, hosts Miko and Celestina dive deep into the ego center and explore the often misunderstood concepts of selfishness and self-worth. As two ego authorities themselves (Miko as an ego projector and Celestina as an ego manifester), they share personal stories and insights about the challenges they've faced living with defined egos in a society that often misinterprets healthy self-prioritization as selfishness.

Join them as they unpack:
The fundamental differences between defined and undefined ego centers (and what it means for the 70% of people with undefined egos)
How childhood conditioning around "selfishness" can shape our relationship with ourselves
Why making promises with an undefined ego often leads to burnout and health challenges
The importance of following your heart pulls as an ego authority
Practical reframes to transform "selfish" into "self-clarity" and "self-value"
Why filling your own cup first isn't selfish—it's necessary

Whether you have a defined or undefined ego, this episode offers valuable insights on deconditioning from societal expectations and honoring your authentic design. Learn how to recognize when you're "shoulding" on yourself and discover strategies to reconnect with what truly fills you.

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00:00 Introduction to Ego and Self-Worth
03:54 Personal Updates and Life Changes
06:08 Understanding Ego Authority
09:17 The Impact of Being Called Selfish
12:01 Conditioning Around Ego and Selflessness
15:12 Exploring Undefined Ego Perspectives
18:10 Commitment and Willpower Challenges
21:05 Navigating Rest and Recovery
24:04 Personal Stories of Heart and Commitment
32:29 Embracing Life's Lessons
33:34 Cultural Conditioning and Ego
36:44 Understanding the Undefined Ego
41:00 Self-Care and Filling Your Cup
48:23 The Importance of Self-Love


49:58 Reframing Selfishness
58:17 Navigating I Want vs. I Should
01:06:09 Outro.mp4
01:06:23 Bloopers.mp4

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We'd love to hear from you!
HeartCore instagram: @heartcorehd
Celestina: @thedietitiancollaborative
Miko: www.opportyounity.life | [email protected]

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