The Truth About Your Avoidant Man’s Silence | Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist

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When your partner goes radio-silent, every unanswered text can feel like proof that the relationship is crumbling. In this episode, Adam unpacks why avoidant men retreat into silence, what’s really happening in their neurobiology at that exact moment, and how the anxious partner’s well-intended “Are you okay?” can accidentally make things worse. You’ll hear the childhood origins of avoidant coping, the brain-body chain reaction that shuts down speech, and a step-by-step roadmap for turning those tense quiet gaps into opportunities for deeper trust and secure connection.

✨ Key Points Covered ✨
👉 Why an avoidant man’s silence is usually self-protection, not rejection
👉 The neurobiology of anxious vs. avoidant shutdowns (cortisol, dopamine, dorsal-vagal freeze)
👉 How anxiety-driven reassurance-seeking can backfire and push him further away
👉 Early warning signs of his overload: tight jaw, one-word answers, flat affect
👉 Regulating your own nervous system before re-engaging
👉 Low-pressure scripts that invite connection without triggering retreat
👉 Building reconnection rituals, clear boundaries, and gradual emotional capacity
👉 Protecting children from inheriting anxious/avoidant patterns

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Chapters:
00:00:00 Understanding Silent Treatment in Relationships
00:02:40 Understanding Why Men Go Silent and Women's Reactions
00:05:18 Understanding Anxious Attachment in Relationships
00:07:48 Understanding Emotional Overload in Avoidant Individuals
00:10:17 Understanding Avoidant Attachment and Emotional Withdrawal
00:12:49 The Cycle of Relationship Degradation and Its Impact on Children
00:15:14 Neurological Addiction in Toxic Relationships
00:17:33 Understanding Avoidance in Relationships
00:19:54 Recognizing Communication Shifts in Relationships
00:22:14 Communication Tips for Reducing Relationship Pressure
00:24:30 Building Trust and Connection in Relationships
00:26:49 Building a System to Protect Children in Relationships