6 Mind Games Avoidants Play When They’re Secretly Obsessed With You | Esther Perel

This video breaks down the subtle psychological patterns avoidant partners use when they’re deeply attached but scared to show it. Inspired by Esther Perel’s work, it explains the emotional push and pull, the moments of connection followed by sudden distance, and the hidden fears driving their mixed signals. The speech helps you see the behavior clearly so you can stop doubting yourself, take back your emotional power, and protect your peace. It guides you through each mind game step by step, showing you what it means and how to respond without losing yourself in their confusion.

🎯 WHY YOU SHOULD WATCH

If you’ve ever felt someone pull away right when things start to feel real, this video will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface. It gives you clarity instead of chaos and shows how avoidants often behave not because of you, but because they fear intimacy while wanting connection at the same time. Watching this will help you make sense of the mixed signals, stay grounded, and stop internalizing someone else’s emotional struggle. You’ll walk away with a stronger sense of confidence and a new way of reading avoidant behavior without taking it personally.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Introduction 🔥
01:45 – Why avoidants act close, then pull away 🧩
04:32 – Mind Game 1: The disappearing act 😶
08:51 – Mind Game 2: Selective closeness 💬
12:40 – Mind Game 3: Hot and cold affection ♨️❄️
17:10 – Mind Game 4: Testing your loyalty 🧠
21:55 – Mind Game 5: Emotional breadcrumbing 🍞
27:42 – Mind Game 6: Silent punishments 🤐
35:10 – What to do next and how to stay empowered 💡

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