How to Avoid a High Conflict Divorce with Your Husband: A Father's Perspective

In this insightful episode, Leah Hadley welcomes Sam Asra, a specialist in high conflict divorce, particularly supporting fathers through the complexities of separation, custody battles, and parental alienation. Drawing from his own experience as a child of a tumultuous divorce, Sam Asra discusses the early warning signs of high conflict, the emotional drivers behind contentious divorces, and effective strategies to de-escalate and protect both finances and family relationships.



Key Topics: 



Early Warning Signs of High Conflict Divorce: Sam Asra shares tell-tale signs such as refusal to cooperate in mediation, hostile language, and the tendency to take disputes to court unnecessarily.



De-escalation Strategies: Insights on using soft skills ("fighting fire with water") rather than escalating arguments. Setting boundaries and clarifying non-negotiables help create a space for strategic, less emotional decision-making.



Emotional Drivers of Divorce Conflicts: Discussion on common fears: loss of stability, fear of losing children’s love, and lack of control when courts dictate terms.



Importance of the Co-Parenting Relationship: Leah Hadley candidly shares her evolution in prioritizing her co-parenting relationship, showing how adult children and future family events mean ex-partners remain in each other’s lives.



Practical Techniques for Communication & Boundaries: Sam Asra explains the importance of direct and assertive communication, without aggression or passivity, and offers examples of how reframing requests (e.g., choices for pickup times) can shift the dynamic.



Protecting Kids During High Conflict Divorce: Tips for parents on supporting the other parent’s involvement (when safe), facilitating open communication, and considering therapy for children.



Resource Spotlight:



Sam Asra offers a free training on “Five Essential Questions to Ask Your Lawyer” that can help save significant legal fees by ensuring you have the right legal support.



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