Why is My Husband Looking at Pornography? | Common Reasons Why He's Watching Porn | Dr. Doug Weiss

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Dr. Doug Weiss is a licensed psychologist who has helped thousands of couples dealing with sex and porn addiction for over 30 years. In this video, he discusses why a woman’s husband would be looking at porn.

To many women, it doesn’t make sense. They’ve never looked at porn or if they had, weren’t affected by it. Why would he want to look at porn and in some cases, not even be sexual with his wife?

In a lot of cases, these men have formed their sexuality through attaching through the object, fantasy, and pornography world. They were introduced to porn as children/early teens one way or another. With the sexual release they received from viewing it, the process caused an attachment to the imagery and thus are drawn towards it. By the time the man gets married, he looked at porn and masturbated at least 1000 times or more, and will continue to do so through the marriage. The repetition of this addiction reinforces the object sex desire. When they do have sex with their wives, their minds may not be focused on the wife, resulting in the experience not being relational.

Sometimes, psychological meanings are given towards the porn, desiring to feel wanted, powerful, in control, and celebrated. In this fantasy world, there are no rules, responsibilities, reality, and no limitations to their desires. Unfortunately, men who engage in this behavior find it easier to commit to porn over having a real relationship.

Having a biological attachment, psychological attachment, the person’s family of origin, chemical imbalances in the brain, and intimacy anorexia are common reasons why a man may view pornography.

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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

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0:00 — Video Start
0:55 — Why is He Looking at Porn
01:19 — It's Not About You
01:37 — Dr Weiss' Counseling Experience
02:30 — Early Exposure To Porn
03:02 — Object vs Relational Sex
03:33 — Psychological Reasons
03:42 — Fantasy World
04:36 — Recovery Resources
04:44 — Partner Betrayal Trauma
05:00 — Reasons For Porn Use
05:34 — You Are Not At Fault
05:56 — Counseling & Support