Dr. Lindsay Gibson and Simona Vivi H, Emotionally Immature People and the Remothering Journey

Talk: How to Reclaim Your Self-connection and Boundaries in Relationships with Emotionally Immature People

Description:
We each come to our remothering work having traveled a different path. And while the remothering work is about us and future us, sometimes it can be helpful to look at the roots of our adaptations. Not as a report card on the parenting we did or did not receive, but rather as a tool for understanding ourselves with greater self-compassion.

If a part of your personal history includes being raised by an emotionally immature parent, this talk is for you. Dr. Gibson gives language to the very real experience of growing up without emotional attunement. Simply having language in and of itself is incredibly healing. Then, with that language as the foundation, she offers eye-opening insights into why setting boundaries with EIPs is so challenging.


Being raised by an emotionally immature parent (EIP) creates patterns and styles of interacting with others that are often below the level of everyday consciousness.

Our early environment trained us to put other people’s emotional stability ahead of our own. And since it was the air we were breathing, we learned it automatically (implicitly), without even realizing there is another way to do things.

We were programmed to be overly accommodating (along with many other understandable impacts). Which all makes sense given our early environment.

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We don’t get into solutions in this clip, but check out some of the other clips for solutions, check out the full talk. In the full talk, Dr. Gibson and Simona get into:

Why does emotional attunement matter?
The biggest well-kept secret about empowerment
How to spot an Emotionally Immature Parent (some of the hallmarks of EIPs)
Are you an over-explainer? This may be why.
How to be in relationship with an EIP (if you choose to be)
Setting boundaries with EIPs
The impacts of being raised by an EIP
and how the remothering work supports thriving forward

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If this talk resonates for you, I’d encourage you to check out Dr. Gibson’s book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (and her upcoming book that’s due out in July: Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People)


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Time Stamps

1:20 Not a report card on our parents
2:50 Intro to Dr. Gibson’s work on EIPs (emotionally immature parents)
9:40 What does emotional attunement matter?
16:30 Biggest well-kept secret about empowerment
21:31 How to spot an EIP
22:30 Are you an over-explainer? This may be why.
24:56 EIPs and Empathy
38:50 Human Attachment (and why it matters)
42:13 How to be in a relationship with an EIP (if you choose to be)
46:37 What a mother taking responsibility sounds like
48:48 Setting boundaries with EIPs
59:00 Impacts of being raised by an EIP
1:12:20 Final thoughts on boundaries with EIPs (for understanding,
not to take responsibility for them)