How to Disarm a Criticism That Feels Wrong

Can you still use the Disarming Technique if someone’s criticism isn’t true?

In this video, Dr. David Burns and therapist Adam Holman answer the most common—and challenging—questions about the Disarming Technique, one of the Five Secrets of Effective Communication.

Through real-life examples, humor, and role plays, they explore:
• What to do when a criticism feels unfair
• Can skillful disarming still fail?
• Why agreeing—genuinely—can open the door to an amazing connection

This technique isn't about losing or failure. It's about curiosity, humility, and choosing warmth over ego—especially when it’s the hardest thing to do.

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📘 Based on Feeling Good Together by Dr. David Burns
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