142 - Why You Attract Everyone’s Problems (and How to Stop!)

Do you constantly feel like everyone else’s problems somehow become yours? Whether it’s at work, in your family, or among friends, you're the one people rely on to fix things. But it’s exhausting, isn’t it?

In today’s video, I’m breaking down the psychology behind why you attract other people’s issues—and how to finally stop. We’ll explore:

✔️ Where the “fixer” pattern comes from
✔️ Why you feel responsible for everyone else
✔️ The emotional toll it’s taking on you
✔️ How to break the cycle and set healthier boundaries

If you’re feeling drained, resentful, or overwhelmed from carrying everyone else’s emotional baggage—this video is for you.

👇 Let me know in the comments if this resonates. Are you ready to let go of being the fixer?

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TIMESTAMPS
01:23 - Why You Need to 'Fix'
03:52 - The Hidden Costs
05:07 - Fixing the Need to Fix
05:11 - Recognise the Pattern
06:15 - What You're Trying to Do
07:21 - How to Hold Space
08:27 - Boundaries
09:42 - The Wrap-up
10:38 - What Next?
11:28 - Outro


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