Fighting? Don't Seek Resolution..Do this instead

When you're in a fight/conflict it's really tempting to try to have the other person remember the details of fight just like you remember them. This will rarely if ever work!

Folks are coming from their own filter system and their own vantage point so that that becomes destructive fuel that will make the fight much worse. The basics do need to be there. People taking accountability, people apologizing when they've done something really wrong are really relationship basics...but say you are in a conflict with someone whom you do have a decent relationship with, don't seek resolution instead seek to mirror what they said and felt. So important to have a feeling of being heard by the other person. So sentences like
✅️"What I think I heard you say was..."
or ✅️"What I think you were feeling was...." and make sure you are being accurate and ask them if you're being accurate.... are all a part of the Bridge Building aspect in a good relationship when you're in conflict and these bridges are the foundation of creating Trust with the other person which are the foundation really of a good quality long-term relationship.

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