How to Stop Feeling Insecure in a Relationship and Gain Confidence | Tom Bilyeu & Lisa Bilyeu

Are you using your partner to overcome insecurities and selfishly get what you want? We’ve all been there at some point, and that’s okay. There are times when feeling insecure just happens and you need to work through those feelings. But how do you work through those feelings without destroying your relationship? Tom and Lisa share how they work through this situation and find ways to support each other, and discuss when it’s possibly time to seek professional help and more intense options to help your partner through insecurities when their behavior becomes irrational.

Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.

SHOW NOTES:

Security | Being in relationship is with the security to be comfortable leaning on partner [0:35]
Irrational | Dealing with insecure behaviors that no longer makes sense for situation [3:31]
Get Help | When it’s time to get professional help and using cognitive behavior therapy [4:55]
Work Together | Helping your partner through their insecurities and doing the work [7:27]
Confidence | The danger of overly relying on your partner to help you with confidence [10:54]
2 Part Solution | Finding balance of leaning on you partner and doing work for yourself [12:44]

QUOTES:

“So being in a relationship is a sacrifice. The question is, what do you get out of the relationship that's worth all the sacrifices?” Tom Bilyeu [1:37]

“Like it was easy when it was easy. Now I get to earn my stripes on it's hard and I get to really find that connection again.” Tom Bilyeu [9:52]

“If I'm just relying on you to give me confidence and to make me feel okay with my insecurities, then I think it could be dangerous” Lisa Bilyeu [12:06]

“When someone's insecure or having trouble or feeling down or something like that, there's got to be a beautiful balance of love, support, emotional support but also pushing them to be better.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:56]