💑 Can Your Marriage Be Saved? (The Gottman Method)

📈💬 Nearly 50 years of research show that marriages don’t collapse overnight—they erode through “the Four Horsemen”: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Dallas therapist Candy Marcum—one of Texas’ first certified Gottman counselors—joins family-law attorney Jennifer Hargrave to decode Drs. John & Julie Gottman’s science-backed tools for reversing marital meltdown. From the “Love Map” check-in to the 6-second kiss, you’ll learn concrete exercises couples can practice today to lower conflict, raise emotional bids, and decide whether the relationship can (and should) be rebuilt.

💡 What You’ll Learn
The Four Horsemen & Their Antidotes – Spotting toxic communication patterns and replacing them with gentle start-ups, appreciation, and self-soothing.

Love Maps & Fondness Surveys – Daily 5-minute rituals that rekindle curiosity and friendship—the true foundation of long-term intimacy.

Repair Attempts That Work – “I feel… about what… and need…” sentence stems that stop fights before they spiral.

Stress-Reducing Conversations – Separating “us” from outside pressures (kids, in-laws, jobs) to keep battles from bleeding into the marriage.

When Therapy Beats DIY – Success rates for Gottman-informed counseling, signs you need a professional guide, and how to pick one.

Discernment vs. Divorce – Frameworks for couples on the fence—and why a respectful separation sometimes is the healthiest outcome.

📚 Further Resources
FREE PDF – 20 Gottman Repair Phrases
🔗 https://hargravefamilylaw.com/gottman...

“Is Your Marriage in the Danger Zone?” (Blog)
🔗 https://hargravefamilylaw.com/can-you...

Gottman Relationship Checkup (Official)
🔗 https://checkup.gottman.com/

Find a Certified Gottman Therapist
🔗 https://gottman.com/therapists/

⏱️ Chapters
00:00 Intro & Candy Marcum’s Background
02:18 Gottman Research in a Nutshell
05:05 The Four Horsemen Explained
08:40 Building Love Maps & Fondness
11:55 Effective Repair Attempts
15:30 Stress-Reducing Conversations
18:20 Discernment Counseling vs. Divorce
21:15 When to Seek Professional Help
24:10 Final Thoughts & Next Steps

🏛️ About Hargrave Family Law
We guide Texas families through life’s toughest transitions with strength, dignity, and compassion.

🌐 Website: https://hargravefamilylaw.com
☎️ (214) 420-0100
📍 4201 Spring Valley Rd, Suite 1210, Dallas, TX 75244

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✅ Key Takeaway
Marriage isn’t saved by grand gestures—it’s rescued through small, consistent moments of turning toward your partner. Use the Gottman tools in this episode to start healing conversations, strengthen friendship, and decide—together—whether renewal or respectful parting is the right path.

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LEGAL DISCLAIMER: The information provided through this channel is for educational and informational purposes only and is not legal advice. Unless you have an active signed Engagement Agreement with Hargrave Family Law and have paid a retainer, no attorney-client relationship exists. Always seek advice about your unique situation from an attorney licensed in your state who is experienced in the matters you face.