disappoint your strict parents now or resent yourself forever

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for years, I believed that being a good daughter meant becoming someone I never chose. as a firstborn child of immigrant parents, and adopted on top of that, I spent most of my life trying to “make it” in ways that would make them proud. but slowly, that dream turned into a script I didn’t write.

in this video, I unpack the turning point: the moment I realized I was building a life rooted in performance, guilt, and obligation, not truth. I talk about the fear of disappointing your parents, the fantasy they project onto you, and the silent resentment that builds when you betray yourself in the name of love.

if you’re navigating identity, expectations, or trying to choose your path without betraying where you came from, this one’s for you.

because sometimes choosing yourself is the most honoring thing you can do.

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🎀 in this video 🎀
[0:00] the pressure of being chosen
[2:28] chasing a dream that wasn’t mine
[4:28] the moment i chose myself
[6:06] breaking free from their expectations
[7:49] what autonomy really means
[10:10 ]the actions that helped me unlearn it all
[12:47] closing thoughts for the ones trying to break free