How to Avoid Being a Rebound

Clay Andrews discusses how to avoid being a rebound for someone else. The blog post I mention in the video is over here: https://modernlove.life/getting-perso...

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As we've talked about in many of the previous videos, rebound relationships carry a lot of challenges and I certainly wouldn't recommend that you go out of your way to have one.

But what can you do if you want to know how to avoid being a rebound girl or guy?

Well, we've already discussed the ways that you can identify a rebound relationship. So, you should know how to spot one.

Beyond that, you simply need to know that you do NOT need to jump into a relationship with someone on the rebound.

You do not need to voluntarily do this to yourself.

I know that it can be hard when you love someone or when you feel compassion for someone and you have an emotional connection with them.

But love or an emotional connection by themselves are not a good reason to get into a relationship.

If you want your relationship to actually work out in the long run, you need to make sure that you are getting into a relationship with the right person.

And the right person, at the wrong time... is the wrong person for you to be in a relationship with.

You may fear that if you don't "lock it down" now that you'll miss the opportunity to be with that person in the future, but that is simply scarcity thinking and it isn't going to do you any good if you want to avoid being a rebound.

If someone is just coming out of a relationship, for example, and you believe that you may be about to walk into a rebound relationship with that person, you do NOT need to "lock it down."

Simply tell that person that you are not interested in a rebound relationship. You understand that this person probably has some emotional issues to work through as a result of their breakup, and you might be interested in dating them once they work through those issues, but you are not there to be their playground while they do that.