Ep 147 - Opt Out October: Saying No to Mental Clutter

In this episode, host Jill Simons welcomes Dr. Peter Malinoski, a Catholic psychologist, to dive deeply into the concept of mental clutter and its role in our spiritual and personal development. This is part of the "Opt Out October" series, which is all about helping listeners identify and intentionally eliminate the unnecessary noise and commitments that hinder their ability to live out their unique spiritual gifts—their charisms.

Dr. Malinoski explains that much of the so-called “clutter” we experience—our racing thoughts, emotional outbursts, and inner fragmentation—points to underlying wounds, unmet needs, or unresolved issues from our past. He emphasizes that, rather than random noise, mental clutter carries important messages about parts of ourselves that need healing or integration. He notes research suggesting that 90% of our reactions to present situations come from unresolved issues in our past, making interior integration essential for true spiritual and emotional peace.

Jill and Dr. Malinoski discuss how many Catholics tend to avoid looking inward, fearing self-absorption or thinking it’s unspiritual. Dr. Malinoski insists that genuine self-knowledge and self-love aren’t selfish; in fact, St. Thomas Aquinas and the great commandments teach that we cannot love neighbor or God fully without loving ourselves and knowing who we truly are. He provides examples of how distraction and internal noise in prayer are often signs that our hearts are trying to show us where we need attention.

If you’re looking for a practical, Catholic perspective on how to quiet internal noise, heal old wounds, and discern your unique gifts, this episode is packed with insightful guidance, relatable examples, and great resources to continue your journey.

01:20 - Introduction to Mental Clutter and “Opt Out October”

04:07 - What is “Human Formation”?

07:26 - “I’m Actually Grateful for the Clutter”: The Purpose of Distractions

11:10 - The Importance of Inner Integration Before Loving Others

23:49 - Recognizing Spiritual Bypassing and Its Consequences

47:18 - Resources for Human Formation: Souls and Hearts

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