If It Comes & Goes, It Isn’t It — Awakening is the End of States

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Key Takeaways
• Every seeker’s idea of freedom is wrong. The very expectation of a “final state” prevents realization.
• A goal must be acknowledged, not denied. The mind naturally seeks one, even if it’s “having no goal.”
• Awakening isn’t a state change. Any shift in perception, thought, or feeling is still phenomenal — temporary and not the truth.
• The real goal is happiness. All seeking, worldly or spiritual, is a disguised search for unconditional peace.
• Happiness isn’t an emotion or state. It’s the natural condition of being — ever-present, self-existent, and free of resistance.
• True happiness = true forgiveness. Reality gives everything permission to exist exactly as it is — nothing is resisted.
• Peace regenerates the nervous system. Life continues as before, but with no residue of trauma, grasping, or avoidance.

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Topics

The Wrong Idea of Awakening

Saja opens by asserting that everyone on the spiritual path has an expectation of what awakening will look like — and it’s always wrong. If one truly understood the goal, it would already be realized. The misconception lies in believing awakening involves a particular mental, emotional, or perceptual state.

The Paradox of Goals

While some traditions insist “there is no goal,” Saja points out the mind cannot help but create one. Rather than deny this instinct, he reframes it: acknowledge the mind’s drive and redirect it toward a valid goal — not a phenomenal experience, but true understanding.

The Trap of Phenomenal States

Many seekers mistake altered states, including psychedelic experiences or feelings of oneness, as glimpses of awakening. These are still phenomenal and therefore impermanent. If truth depended on a state change, it would not be truth. Freedom must already be here, within ordinary consciousness.

The Black Pill: The Search for Happiness

All human activity, spiritual or mundane, arises from the same impulse — the desire to be happy. This realization is sobering (“a black pill”) because it exposes even spiritual seeking as a continuation of the same pursuit. Liberation is not about escaping suffering but recognizing happiness as what remains when resistance ends.

Happiness as Enlightenment

Saja dismantles the separation between “happiness” and “enlightenment.” The Buddha’s end of suffering is identical to unconditional happiness — peace regardless of conditions. Enlightenment is simply happiness freed from dependence on feeling, circumstance, or state.

The Regenerative Nervous System

He describes a nervous system that naturally returns to equilibrium after emotional disturbance — no new trauma, no retained pain. Peace isn’t suppression but complete allowance; experiences arise and pass without residue.

True Forgiveness and Unconditional Acceptance

Awakening reveals that existence itself is unconditional forgiveness — the allowing of all things before they even appear. Nothing is resisted because reality, by nature, gives everything permission to be. This radical acceptance is happiness.

Happiness as the Nature of Being

Just as the sun shines light, being radiates happiness. It is not caused by conditions or chemicals — it is the source behind them. Even when resistance arises, happiness remains as the background awareness allowing it. Realization is simply seeing this clearly.

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