Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.
This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship.

Thank You Raven & Miranda
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Here’s what I have so far:

A monoga-mix relationship is one where a couple centers the value of sexual and romantic exclusivity, while also incorporating some of the elements from other commitment models.

I made this word for those who feel they don’t fully align with traditional monogamy but aren’t necessarily interested in non-monogamy.

Here are some of the Monoga-mixes I've identified

Solo polyamory and Monogamy: Both partners are committed to each other romantically and sexually but maintain separate lives in key areas (e.g., living separately, separate finances, bedrooms, etc…).

Polyamory and Monogamy: The couple remains sexually exclusive but allows for deep emotional connections or intimate friendships with others. This could include fostering strong platonic relationships (like a work wife/ husband) or even romantic friendships without crossing physical boundaries.

Monogamy and Open Relationships: The couple may identify as monogamous but agree to explore occasional polyamorous experiences, such as attending play parties together, exploring fantasies, or opening the relationship temporarily (hall pass) under clearly defined rules.

Monogamy and Swinging: While remaining committed to each other, the couple might explore shared exploration together in a limited way, such as attending sex parties together to look but not touch, couples vacations with parallel play and unicorn hunting without intention to cross the physical line.

Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy: A relationship where the couple values sexual and romantic exclusivity but rejects traditional societal rules about relationships. They prioritize customizing their partnership based on shared values rather than adhering to pre-set norms like specific gender roles, timelines aka the relationship escalator, or expectations.

Monogamy and Co-Parenting/Continued Intimacy: A dynamic where the couple remains romantically exclusive, but one partner maintains a close, family-like relationship with their ex where they maintain a level of duty to them.

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