Need vs. Want: Understanding How BPD Impacts Relationships | Dr. Daniel Fox

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often turns relationships into emotional battlegrounds—driven by fear of abandonment, intense dependency, and distorted self-perception. In this episode, Dr. Daniel Fox breaks down the classic BPD relationship patterns, exploring the six core interpersonal dynamics that keep people stuck. Learn how to recognize the difference between needing a relationship and wanting one, how internalized beliefs shape your actions, and what it means to move toward more adaptive, stable connection. Whether you’re living with BPD, in a relationship with someone who is, or a clinician looking to understand more—this episode brings clarity and hope.

00:00 – Intro: BPD and the Relationship Trap
00:48 – Why Needing a Relationship Can Be Dangerous
02:23 – How Fear of Aloneness Drives Dysfunction
03:45 – The “My Misery Is Your Command” Cycle
06:13 – Shame, Self-Blame, and the Drive to Be Good
08:12 – What Healthy Openness Looks Like
12:16 – Fear of Independence and Autonomy
14:22 – Depressive Dependency Explained
15:48 – When You Finally Want the Relationship
17:31 – Breaking Maladaptive Patterns
19:01 – You Can Be Loved Again
20:14 – Final Thoughts: Finding Your Worth Within

𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞𝐥 𝐉. 𝐅𝐨𝐱 📚
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐎𝐮𝐭 𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱’𝐬 𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 🎓
BPD Course: Learn more at www.bpdcourse.com

𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱’𝐬 𝐏𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐝 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 📘
Dr. Fox has published several articles and books in the areas of personality disorders, emotional intelligence, and treatment strategies. Below are some of his key works:

▶ BPD Guided Journal: Your Space to Release Intense Emotions, Nurture Self-Compassion, and Take Charge of Borderline Personality Disorder.
Available at:
https://shorturl.at/Ta5Dj

▶ The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Available at:
www.shorturl.at/jBHJV

▶ Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance.
Available at:
https://rb.gy/hdyqyy

▶ Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment.
Available at:
https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

▶ The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD.
Available at:
https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

▶ Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner).
Available at:
https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

▶ Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner).
Available at:
https://goo.gl/sZYhym

𝐃𝐫. 𝐅𝐨𝐱'𝐬 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐞 💼
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐃𝐫. 𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐞𝐥 𝐅𝐨𝐱 🌍
👉 YouTube:    / @drdanielfox  
👉 Website: http://www.drdfox.com/
👉 Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
👉 Facebook:   / appliedpsychservices  
👉 Twitter:   / drdanieljfox1  
👉 LinkedIn:   / drdfox  
👉 Instagram:   / drdfox  
👉 Amazon Author’s Page: amazon.com/author/drfox

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