Sam Vaknin Narcissists attach ONLY with an INNER world of introjects (fragmented & chaotic)
Автор: Visceral Gravitas
Загружено: 2022-12-26
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excerpt from • Why Self-less Narcissist Can Never Love YO...
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rough transcript:
when we're babies we appropriate objects
we consume them we digest them we assimilate them
and we merge and fuse with them
we move them across the self not-self boundary
they become self
the primary primordial ego cannot tell the difference between self and object
so it devours it's ruthless it's it's cruel and sadistic
the narcissist confuses external objects with internal objects
so all his emotional energy goes inwards because external objects are frustrating and painful
and because there is no difference in the narcissist mind between external and internal
he ends up investing all his emotional energy in internal objects
healthy people they're like stars or like planets
the narcissist is all over the place
there's a supermassive black hole in the middle and there are spirals and spirals of introjects circling this black hole
never integrated most of them not interacting with each other
the narcissist identifies with your representation in his mind
you could do whatever you want it doesn't matter
he never interacts with you
he interacts with your image in his mind
and it's usually idealized or devalued
never realistic
when you as the intimate partner behave in ways which contradict the introject
the narcissist goes haywire he loses it
you're challenging the object
you're challenging the narcissist libido his force of life
you're pushing him to die in effect
he has no ability to stabilize and integrate introject
you become the enemy
you become an internal object
known as a persecutory object
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