‘You Didn’t Raise Your Child Properly’ — Or Did We Miss What He Really Needed?

This video is about one student many of us have taught.

The one who:
• doesn’t follow instructions
• disrupts others
• seems constantly “behind”
• carries the label problem child wherever he goes

At first glance, it’s easy to ask: Who’s to blame?
The parents? The child? The system?

But this story takes a different path.

Instead of adding more rules or consequences, I chose to observe.
To watch how he learned.
To notice what he struggled with.
To understand why he acted the way he did.

What I saw changed everything.
He wasn’t misbehaving because he didn’t care.
He was struggling — and reacting to that struggle.

So I made one small change:
For the first five minutes of every lesson, I made sure he experienced success.
Tiny moments. Simple questions. Achievable wins.
Moments where he could finally feel: “I can do this.”

And slowly, something shifted.

Not because he suddenly became a different child —
but because the environment around him changed.
Two months later, his mother told me:
“He loves coming to your classes. He feels accepted.”

This video isn’t about blaming parents.
And it’s not about ignoring structure or boundaries.
It’s about remembering the power we still have as teachers.

When we change how we see a child,
we often change how that child sees themselves.

And that can change everything.