What Nobody Tells You About Grief and Loss

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In today’s episode, you’re going to learn what nobody tells you about grief and loss.

Whether you’ve lost someone recently, years ago, or are anticipating a loss, this conversation will give you clarity, relief, and a way forward.

Or if someone you love is grieving and you feel helpless and want to know how to support them, after this conversation, you will know exactly what to say and do.

Joining Mel today is David Kessler, one of the world’s most renowned experts on grief and loss and bestselling author of eight books, who has spent more than 40 years helping millions of people through the hardest moments of their lives.

David has lived profound loss himself, and he brings a rare combination of research, compassion, honesty, and hard-earned wisdom.

What he shares today will change the way you understand grief, your own emotions, and what healing actually looks like.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
-The real reason grief feels so confusing (and why you’re not “doing it wrong”)
-The biggest mistakes people make when they’re grieving
-What to say (and what never to say) when someone you love is grieving
Why waves of sadness hit you out of nowhere
What grief bursts and love bursts are and what they mean
-Why guilt is so common after loss and how to release it
-How to carry your love forward without being trapped in pain
-The surprising ways laughter and anger help you heal

Today, David offers you a simple framework to live with more peace, grace, and meaning after loss.

If you’ve ever felt alone in your grief, confused by your emotions, or pressured to “move on,” this conversation is for you.

You are not doing it wrong. You are not alone.

And with David’s clear, compassionate guidance, you’ll understand how healing can become possible.

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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

In this episode:
00:00 Meet the Guest
12:16 Understanding Different Grieving Styles
18:03 There’s No Right Timeline for Grief
22:38 How to Handle Sudden Waves of Grief
27:00 How to Ask for Support When You’re Grieving
31:55 What Complicated Grief Feels Like and When to Seek Support
37:18 Allowing Joy Back Into Your Life After Loss
46:02 How to Find Meaning After Loss
1:00:58 Anger in Grief: Healthy Ways to Cope and Express What You Feel
01:03:11 What Is the Bargaining Stage of Grief?
01:07:36 How to Support Someone Who Is Grieving

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