He's Back And Forth ( With Coach Margaret)

He's Back And Forth. Craig has Coach Margaret come in for the first time to talk about someone that is back and forth about with their relationship.
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At one point things got rocky and it was due to the stress of the situation, him dating someone else, him being confused and still saying he wanted something with me in the future.

April we worked together more, because he was on night rotation and I work nights. We saw each other more and things were going well.

I took a family vacation to Hawaii for two weeks the beginning of April. The day before I left I had called him and he was stressed said it was from work and in turn got angry with me cause I was apologizing to him for the way things had been. At this point I let it be and said okay I hope all turns out with work and if you ever need to talk i’m here to listen…This was monday the 10th. I left tuesday, fast forward to friday the 14th he sent me a message ‘hey are you back’ I replied and told him I wouldn’t be back to Arizona until the following thursday. He was talking to me normally, fun, laughing calling factoring joking all of it. I was happy. I felt happy.

He openly admitted at this time that he was stalking my face book (we are not friends) he found me through a mutual work friend. He said ‘you look pretty in your profile picture, I always told you how beautiful you were but you never quite did believe me.. everyone else seems to agree with me’ we talked about my trip and he was so interested, he was chasing.

He had told me that he wanted to talk to me when I got back into town, and asked if I felt like I would still want to work things out. I said of course I want that but is that what you want he said ‘yes, but I want us to be better i want to do this right’.

I get back into town, the next day I go to see him. He is happy, and excited. He tells me that he is not talking to anyone else. That he broke up wit his gf cause it ‘was too much too soon and that I was right she was a rebound and he realized he didn’t really

We agreed to take things slow. We talked about his fears of lack of time being a resident physician and at this point I assured him that I understood it, and I have the whole time we dated and i have nothing but support. He told me that ‘I make him happy, and that no matter how hard he could ever try he can’t make himself not want to be with me’.

Now, the trouble comes in the next week after this. I had asked him for coffee after work one day and I wanted to get some thoughts out to him. I wanted to tell him that we needed to treat this as a new relationship so old things wouldn’t sneak in. That we needed to be sure to communicate.

Really, I had missed him so much in the time we weren’t talking or seeing each other that I wanted to just see him. He replied ‘you saw me tonight and work and you’ll see me there later’ I was upset and devastated i said ‘ok, I guess maybe you dont want to see me’ BAD idea to say this.

At this point, he told me that I was never going to change, and that it will always be the same. I explained to him I was hurt, that I wanted to see him and just be with him he didn’t explain that he was tired, and had a bad night.

So, the communnication was off, and it led to him going back to his gf/rebound which is interesting cause he told me that he couldn't be in a relationship, he was stressed with work, didn't have the time and needed to work on himself. Yet, he is not alone? How can one really focus on themselves if they are not putting the time into that.

After that happened, he didn’t talk to me for a week. He called me that saturday and argued with me about how I would never change and he didn’t think it would be better.

I poured my heart out to him and we hung up.

He said he had things he had to think about and that I did too. That we would talk later, we never did. I left town that Sunday for a trip with my mom. he never reached out. When I got back into town, I heard that he was back with his gf/rebound. This is coming from another doctor we work closely with. I asked him about it, he ignored. Sunday, two weeks ago, I called him.

We had a conversation and he never denied that he was seeing her he asked how I found out. He also admitted again to stalking my fb and said I see you went on another trip, you never told me. At this point he said he was a coward and thats why he never said anything after that saturday phone call that it ‘was easier to be mad at me’. Monday, I asked him to meet and go over some things.

He told me that him and his gf have been talking just in the week that I was gone and after his blow up on the phone, he told me that they are just having ‘conversations’ and that he told he what was going wrong and they were talking about it and trying to repair it. Why? Why would she get this luxury but when I asked for coffee and ‘pushed’ him he tells me it will never change?