Denial: "When ‘I’m Fine" is a Lie | Divorce and The Loss Cycle Part 2

Welcome to The Joy! A.A.C.T.™ Podcast with Dr. Lisa Summerour. In this episode, Dr. Lisa continues her series on the Loss Cycle, focusing on the stage of Denial after divorce. She shares personal stories, practical strategies, and powerful exercises to help you move from surviving to thriving.

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[0:00] Introduction to the Loss Cycle series and today’s focus on Denial.
[0:40] Recap of Shock (Part I) and how Denial differs physically and emotionally.
[1:29] Denial is not delusional—think of it as emotional triage.
[2:38] The two faces of Denial: clinging to hope vs. performing “I’m fine.”
[5:41] The impact of Denial on your healing journey and the importance of self-awareness.
[6:35] Understanding the “lowercase s” self vs. the “capital S” Self, inspired by Tina Lifford’s book, The Little Book of Big Lies.
[13:47] Dr. Lisa’s personal turning point: choosing self-trust and truth over denial.
[14:47] Grounding technique: The 5-4-3-2-1 method to calm your mind and body.
[17:44] Two powerful exercises: Naming three truths and the “moment in the mirror.”
[21:15] How honesty with yourself helps you reclaim your power and move forward.
[22:15] Preview of the next episode: Anger in the Loss Cycle.

Disclaimer:
This podcast provides advice and personal experience for informational purposes only. Dr. Lisa Summerour is not an attorney, physician, or psychologist. Please consult a qualified professional for legal, medical, or psychological advice.