What to say when you don't know what to say

We’ve all had that moment—you’re put on the spot, the room goes quiet, and your mind goes completely blank.

In this episode, we explore why this happens and what actually helps when you don’t know what to say. Spoiler: it’s not about having the perfect script or sounding more confident. It’s about learning how to stay present and grounded so you can respond with clarity—even under pressure.

Whether you’re in a meeting, on stage, leading a team, or navigating a difficult conversation, this episode gives you practical tools and phrases you can use in real time to create space, regain your footing, and respond authentically.

⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – Hook: Caught off guard & blanking out
00:42 – Why this happens to everyone + what we’ll cover
01:27 – When prep and scripts fail under pressure
04:36 – What your nervous system is doing (startle response)
10:41 – Spotting the startle in the moment
11:27 – Reset technique: breathe, soften, release
11:32 – Alexander Technique and “nerve-force” tension
14:53 – Redirecting with leadership language
16:22 – Final reflections + what to do next

🔑 In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why freezing isn’t a failure—it’s a physiological response

How to respond when you need time to think

What to say when you feel pressure to perform

How to stay connected instead of shutting down

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