Ep 065: Stop Lettin’ Folks Play in Your Face

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Many of us play games with others thinking it helps us keep peace. But those games don’t heal the wounds, especially the deep ones from our mothers. Healing means something real: reclaiming your authority and being loyal to yourself above all else.

It means setting firm boundaries so no one can disrespect you or “play in your face.” Real safety starts inside, where your own care and approval come first. If you don’t protect yourself, no one else will. Loyalty to yourself can’t be only when it’s easy; it has to be unconditional.

Too many let others disrespect them just to avoid conflict, but that peace comes at a cost: your happiness and dignity. Let others be upset if they want. You have to be your own protector.

Healing your mother wound is a lifestyle of self-loyalty. It brings peace, freedom, and joy. So stop letting people play games with you. Stand up, set boundaries, and protect your peace. You deserve that. You owe that to yourself.

In this episode, I want to share with you what healing really looks like when it starts with being loyal to yourself. We’ll talk about setting strong boundaries, recognizing when you’re betraying yourself, and how to stop letting others play in your face. I’ll also share why healing your mother wound is a lifestyle and why loyalty to yourself is the foundation for real peace and ease in your life. If you’ve been playing nice at the expense of your own well-being, this episode will help you reclaim your power, one bold choice at a time.

"Demand that you be treated the way you want to be treated because you already treat yourself that way, but until you start treating yourself that way, it will never work." – Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:20) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:01:34) Living with ease is a mindset
(00:04:30) Real ease comes from loyalty to self
(00:06:27) Approval isn’t safety
(00:10:06) Be willing to be alone
(00:11:26) How about YOU showing up for yourself first?
(00:13:13) Where do I betray myself?
(00:15:27) Healing is a lifestyle
(00:16:39) You are a resource
(00:19:04) Stop tolerating relationships that make you unsafe
(00:21:01) Prostitution is a self-betrayal
(00:22:56) Protect yourself without apology.
(00:24:00) Ruffle all the feathers

Key Takeaways:
"Safety really starts with the relationship you have with yourself."

"You will betray and abandon yourself in a heartbeat for someone else, for something else, and that is because you have no sense of loyalty to yourself."

"You don't have any real loyalty to yourself because you think safety is their approval."

"You're not really a good friend if you're not a good friend to yourself."
"You have to be okay with the feelings of false guilt that come up when you stand up for yourself."

"Stop saying yes to people that won’t say yes to you, and stop showing up for things you don’t want to do."

"Healing your mother wound is a lifestyle, not something you do off here to make some of the pain go away while you still act foolish and childish on the other side."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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