#132

He’s back by popular demand! We’re thrilled to welcome back Dr John Gray, the renowned author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, to the show. According to USA Today, Men Are from Mars is one of the top 10 most influential books of the past 25 years.

Since then, John has written over 20 more books, revolutionising the way we understand relationships. Like his iconic book, he’s become one of the most influential relationship counsellors of our time. His latest book, Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World, continues this legacy, and we’ll be sure to link it in the resources.

John’s work helps men and women better understand and appreciate their differences in relationships. His unique approach blends communication techniques with nutritional choices that support brain and body chemistry—essential for lasting health, happiness, and romance (yes, even libido!). You can explore more on his website, which is packed with books, blogs, and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com.

While his core teachings remain timeless, John emphasises that relationships have evolved significantly in recent years, requiring fresh approaches.

He starts by helping individuals develop self-love, which strengthens self-esteem and trust. With that foundation, understanding your partner’s differences becomes easier, communication improves, and intimacy thrives.

John is always a captivating guest, and I’m sure you’ll love this episode!

Tip: I suggest listening to it more than once as you always pick up something new for both singles and couples.

He generally speaks to heterosexual people but there are some hormonal/nutritional aspects same-sex couples may find useful too.

In this episode, we talk about:

0:00. Intro
01:04 Dr John Gray PhD (for more visit episode #107)
02:26 The biological difference between the sexes
04:00 Women in the workplace, home and stress
06:07 Libido, attraction, hormones and peri and post-menopause
09:50 Relationship skills in a complex world
11:30 Sex drive, hormones and gender
14:12 Biohack 1: protein and elevated cortisol (stress)
15:54 The committed relationship effect
18:18 Tradional gender roles
22.32 The masculine and the feminine
25:42 Interesting! Relationship statistics after a break-up
26:28 Estrogen & vulnerability
27:58 Biohack 2: estrogen and relationships in peri and post-menopause
(for singles and couples)
30:00 What turns a man on?
33:55 Biohack 3: an exercise to raise estrogen and connect to a man
37:48 Muscle mass and metabolism
39:38 Singles: how to get a man in your life
49:48 Why you should avoid sex if you want commitment
52:09 Getting back on the relationship horse after a loss or a breakup
54:01 The importance of creating physical space apart
56:17 Additions and negative emotions
58:20 Nurturing beneficial estrogen
1:05:55 If you're dating in midlife
1:08:15 Being in the feminine

Episode Resources:

Episode #107 with John here -    • #107 Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Ven...  
Website: MarsVenus.com - http://marsvenus.com/
Follow John on Instagram here -   / johngraymarsvenus_official  
Follow John on Facebook here -   / mars.venus.john.gray  
Free Relationship Course: https://www.marsvenus.com/gift
John's book: Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills For Our Complex Modern World
Event: 50% off singles and couples relationship weekend - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mars-ven...

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