Sexual Mindfulness | Dr. Chelom Leavitt | #67

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Chelom Leavitt, J.D.,
Ph.D., will explore with Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz how to intentionally slow your mind and body to
build awareness and create better connection during sex.

#sexualmindfulness #sexualintimacy #sexinmarriage #marriageintimacy

Dr. Chelom Leavitt, J.D., Ph.D. teaches in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. Dr. Leavitt received her Ph.D. from Penn State where she focused her research on how mindfulness is linked to sexual functioning and satisfaction. Dr. Leavitt’s findings have been published in top research journals and books. Her research has helped uncover what couples experience during sex, and what factors contribute to connection. Along with her work in Sexual Mindfulness, Dr. Leavitt hosts interventions that teach couples how to slow down and be more aware and create greater connection during sex. She regularly blogs for Psychology Today as well her website www.chelomleavitt.com, where she shares with readers the latest research on meaningful sex, slowing down to experience greater connection, and being more curious in romantic and sexual relationships. Dr. Chelom Leavitt is married to David Leavitt and they are the parents of nine children.

Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Chelom Leavitt?
2:27 – What is sexual mindfulness?
4:40 – What makes sex stigmatized?
7:28 – Good girl syndrome and bad boy syndrome
10:51 – Present connection with your partner
13:39 – Cultivating sexual mindfulness.
15:18 – Experiential and connective sex.
18:06 – The best gift to give to your spouse – presence.
18:48 – Embracing sexual mindfulness.
21:09 – Noticing intimacy and identity.
23:58 – Building sexual mindfulness with your partner.
28:30 – Mindful embrace.
30:13 – Chelom Leavitt resources: The Sexual Mindfulness Project
32:45 – Being generous with your spouse.
33:45 – Takeaways

Insights:
Chelom: Slow down, be gentle and be curious.

Dave: Media does not portray sex correctly, making time to breathe, slow down, and raise
awareness will benefit your relationship in all ways.

Liz: Normalizing emotions in our life and bringing awareness can increase our sexual pleasure
and lives.

Invites:
• Practice the mindful embrace and heads together exercise Chelom discussed with your
partner.
• Start mindfulness exercises. The next time you have 2 minutes of breathing room, sit
down, practice how it feels to just breathe and be. Implement this routine more and
more into your schedule.
• Notice what happens when you are physically connecting with your partner. A hug can
tell you a lot about how your relationship looks and what you and your partner need.

Chelom Leavitt Links:
Instagram:   / sexualmindfulnessproject  
https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

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