STOP Trying To Date — It’s Why You’re Lonely

Modern dating is broken. The harder you try to find a partner, the lonelier you end up. In this video, we explore the "Paradox of Effort" and why treating love like a school project—optimizing, studying, and "trying"—is actually what’s keeping you single.
If you feel like you're doing everything right but getting nowhere, you aren't alone. This isn't just bad luck; it's a fundamental misunderstanding of human behavior. We break down the "Student vs. Lover" mindset and why the most effective dating advice for men is often to stop strategizing altogether.
In this video, we discuss:
The Paradox of Effort: Why trying less creates more attraction.
The Student vs. The Lover: Why optimizing yourself for a relationship pushes people away.
The Loneliness Loop: How to escape the cycle of desperation and "safe" behavior.
Modern Dating Psychology: Why the system feels rigged and how to actually fix it.
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Sometimes I improve myself. Sometimes I don't. We talk about human behavior, mental health, and the weird contradictions of modern life. There's probably some irony in here somewhere.
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