Islamic Child Raising (Tarbiyah) | Part 9

🔴Video Timestamps On Part 9 of This Islamic Child Raising Lecture Series Below⬇️

Shaykh Usama Abdulghani gives priceless lessons and practical instructions on how to raise our children & families the right way, using the books of Shaykh Abbas Validi, a specialist in Islamic child raising.

00:00:00 – Reframing Play as a Serious Part of Tarbiyah
The lecture opens by challenging the idea that games are trivial. Playing with children is presented as a meaningful component of upbringing that shapes the child’s inner world rather than distracting from discipline.

00:03:55 – Why Children Are Drawn to Games
Children naturally seek movement, challenge, and interaction. Games meet real developmental needs, allowing children to explore confidence, strength, and engagement with their environment.

00:07:40 – Play as a Gateway to Connection and Trust
Shared play builds closeness between parent and child. This emotional bond becomes the foundation through which guidance, correction, and advice are later received.

00:12:30 – What Children Learn Through Games
Games quietly teach patience, self-control, courage, and emotional regulation. These lessons are absorbed naturally, without lectures or coercion.

00:17:15 – Real Play vs. Entertainment That Weakens the Child
The lecture distinguishes between active, interactive play and entertainment that dulls initiative. Real games strengthen resilience, while passive stimulation weakens engagement and focus.

00:22:05 – When Play Is Removed from Childhood
When play is minimized or dismissed, children often become restless, emotionally fragile, or disconnected. The absence of play undermines confidence and independence.

00:26:40 – Playing Without Losing Parental Authority
Playing with children does not erase authority. Healthy play includes rules, boundaries, and parental presence, reinforcing respect rather than undermining leadership.

00:30:55 – Physical Games and the Development of Emotional Strength
Physical games allow children to confront fear, release energy, and test limits in safe ways. This process builds bravery, endurance, and emotional stability.

00:35:10 – Screens as a Dangerous Replacement for Real Play
Screens are presented as a harmful substitute that reshapes attention, patience, and desire. Unlike real play, screens weaken imagination, emotional regulation, and human connection.

00:38:20 – Play as Preparation for Responsibility and Adulthood
Structured play prepares children for responsibility rather than distracting from it. Games train perseverance, decision-making, and self-restraint.

00:40:05 – Concluding Reflections on Play in Islamic Upbringing
Play, when guided correctly, supports serious tarbiyah goals. Balanced play strengthens character and prepares children for real life.