The “I’ll Be Happy When…” Trap in Relationships

I’ll be happy when…
I find The One
my anxiety goes away
my partner acts this way
my partner looks just right
my feelings are what I expect them to be
these thoughts go away

We place so many rules on ourselves and our partners, and sometimes expect the perfect conditions to be in place in order for us to be happy or be content.

In this episode, I break down why this “I’ll be happy when” trap isn’t helping us and our relationships, and give you 5 practices to shift out of this.

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VIDEO TIMELINE ▶️

0:00 The I’ll be happy when perspective & the “Arrival Fallacy”
5:07 Why the “Arrival Fallacy” happens
15:51 How to shift away from the “Arrival Fallacy”

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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE ▶️

✨YLYL Episode #42 (Part 1): How Perfectionism & Expectations Affect Relationships: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...

✨YLYL Episode #43 (Part 2): 7 Ways to Reduce Perfectionism in Our Relationships: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...

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