If You Had to Win Them, You’ll Always Have To

If you had to win someone — their attention, affection, or commitment — you didn’t really win a partner. You entered a permanent audition.

In this video, I’ll break down:
🔹 Why how you enter a relationship sets the tone forever
🔹 How “proving your value” set you up for a lifetime of earning love
🔹 Why status and scarcity aren’t love
🔹 The dangerous fantasy of limerence that keeps this cycle alive

If you had to win them, you’ll always have to.

⏱ Chapters
0:00 Intro – If You Had to Win Them, You’ll Always Have To
1:51 How you enter sets the tone
4:46 On the idea of “proving” your value
9:07 Status doesn’t keep you warm at night
11:27 On limerence: An especially potent fantasy

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