How to stop being hard on yourself

Are you struggling with being hard on yourself? Here’s how to stop being so hard on yourself. I’m going to share some perspectives or you can also think of them as mantras that get me through this when I’m being hard on myself.

1) You’re doing your best. Applying generous assumptions on yourself. Have you considered that you’ve reached the upper limit? If you accept that, and if any more is not a possibility, then you are actually at your maximum optimum level. There’s not more you can do, honestly
2) Maya Angelou quote: forgive yourself for not knowing the things you didn’t know when you learned them. So poetic, so beautiful. Allow yourself to be touched by this. What an incredibly beautiful thing forgiving is, and how incredibly difficult it is to do. Especially for ourselves. Because we are always the hardest on ourselves.
3) Think about an alternate universe, in a fantastical way. I lean into my creativity and imagination. But the more I think about the ‘what if’s’ for my alternate universe self to deal with, the more it allows me to accept my current universe self. Your soul in your body, takes only this one trip
Seeing how unique it is and how magnificent that you get to sit in your body now
4) Question your expectations and where you got them from?

Timestamps:
00:00 Remind yourself that you're doing your best and apply generous assumptions to your actions.
01:13 Forgive yourself for not knowing things and consider reaching your upper limit.
02:33 Embracing Alternate Universes and Self-Compassion
02:57 She visualizes herself in a different universe, allowing herself to let go of regrets.
04:57 Belief in the uniqueness of her current life allows her to be kinder to herself.
05:11 Analyzing the root of self-criticism and high expectations
05:28 Recognizing the origins of unrealistic expectations and self-criticism
06:11 Practicing self-reflection and understanding the source of self-criticism