Navigating Financial Stress Together

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Financial stress is one of the TOP causes of relationship conflict, and it’s rarely about the numbers. It’s about fear, trust, control, and the money stories you both learned long before you met each other.

In this video, Aly, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Head of Relationships at Paired, walks you through five proven tools to handle financial stress as a team instead of opponents. These are techniques she uses with couples every single week in therapy, and they work even if you’re not a “money person.”

Whether you’re fighting about spending, saving, debt, lifestyle differences, or just feeling totally overwhelmed… this video will help you reset the dynamic and communicate in a way that brings you closer, not further apart.

💡 In this video, you’ll learn:

🟣 Why money fights are actually stress fights
🟣 How your “money story” shapes your reactions more than you realize
🟣 How to stop being the unintentional CFO of your household
🟣 How to divide financial responsibility without resentment
🟣 Why budget “rules” fail — and shared goals succeed
🟣 How to have a calm, productive money conversation that doesn’t end in an argument

📚 Video Chapters
00:00 – Why Money Causes Relationship Stress
00:03 – Top Reasons Couples Fight About Finances
00:12 – It’s Not About Money… It’s About Fear & Values
00:24 – You vs. The Stress (Not Each Other)
00:32 – Meet Aly: Couples Therapist & Guide
00:47 – How Financial Stress Impacts Your Relationship
00:56 – Introducing: 5 Tools to Navigate Money Stress
01:01 – Tool #1: Calling Financial Stress What It Really Is
01:30 – Why Stress Triggers Fight/Flight/Freeze in Couples
01:58 – Tool #2: Understanding Your Money Stories
02:24 – How Upbringing Shapes Money Habits
03:00 – Couples Exercise: Share Your Money Memories
03:49 – Tool #3: Dividing Financial Responsibilities
04:28 – Creating Transparency & Reducing Imbalance
05:03 – Tool #4: Setting Shared Goals (Not Restrictive Rules)
06:11 – Example: How One Couple Fixed Their Takeout Fight
07:00 – Tool #5: Planning a Monthly “Money Date”
07:45 – What to Discuss in Your Money Check-Ins
08:26 – Final Recap: Navigating Financial Stress as a Team
09:18 – Strengthening Your Relationship with Paired

🧠 Quick Takeaways (Screenshot This!)
1️⃣ It’s not you vs. your partner — it’s you two versus the financial stress.
2️⃣ Your money behaviors come from childhood experiences. Understanding them reduces conflict.
3️⃣ Don’t default into becoming the “CFO.” Share responsibility and visibility.
4️⃣ Replace restrictive rules with shared, meaningful goals.
5️⃣ Schedule a monthly Money Date to keep conversations calm, predictable, and productive.

📲 Want to feel more like a team with money — and everything else?

The Paired app helps couples stay connected with expert-backed prompts, daily check-ins, and guided conversations that make even the toughest topics (yes, including money) easier to navigate together.
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💬 Your Turn

What’s the biggest money trigger in your relationship — spending, saving, debt, or communication?
Drop it in the comments. Aly will be answering questions during monthly Q&As.

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