What 42 Years of Marriage Taught Us About Forgiveness & Faith | Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage

Greg and Erin welcome renown British evangelist and author, J.John and his wife Killy as they reflect on their 42-year marriage, discussing early challenges, the importance of communication, and the essential values they've embraced: respect, responsibility, romance, and resilience. They emphasize the significance of intentionally nurturing their relationship despite the demands of work and life, and share their daily routines that help them maintain a balanced and harmonious life together. The Johns are full of encouragement for couples, whether you're just starting out or have been married for decades. We also talk about Play Personalities, and we answer a listener question about boundaries when a spouse is continually returning to an addiction.


✅ Topics:
Faith as the Foundation of Marriage
Early Struggles and Growth
The Four Pillars of Marriage
Keeping Love Alive in Busy Seasons
Conflict Resolution and Forgiveness
Guarding Against Burnout
Parenting and Legacy
Practical Tools for a Healthy Marriage

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⏱ Chapters:
00:00:00 - Introduction
00:01:17 - What Today’s Episode Covers
00:02:03 - Meet John & Kelly John
00:02:33 - Kelly’s Journey to Faith
00:05:11 - How John & Kelly Met
00:06:45 - 42 Years of Marriage—What They’ve Learned
00:07:50 - The First Year Struggles (and Salad Spoons!)
00:10:00 - Learning to Communicate and Grow
00:12:12 - The 4 Pillars of Marriage
00:14:58 - Keeping Romance Alive After Decades Together
00:17:09 - Avoiding Burnout & Keeping God First
00:18:33 - Their Daily Prayer & Morning Routine
00:21:12 - Encouragement for Couples in Busy Seasons
00:23:00 - Planting Seeds of Faith Today
00:24:43 - Resilience—Rising Above Life’s Storms Together
00:25:00 - When Work Separates You: Staying Connected Across Distance
00:27:00 - Discovering Identity and Grace in Christ
00:28:21 - Handling Conflict: “Don’t Go to Bed Angry”
00:28:50 - Navigating In-Law Conflict and Cultural Tension
00:34:00 - The Power of Forgiveness
00:36:18 - What We’d Tell Our Younger Selves
00:38:49 - Final Lesson: “Make Sure Jesus Is There”
00:39:23 - Hosts’ Reflections: Lessons from John & Kelly
00:40:18 - Applying the Four Words to Your Own Life
00:41:06 - Priorities, Pressures, and Self-Care in Marriage
00:44:54 - Balancing Travel, Work, and Reconnection
00:46:07 - The Importance of Yearly Marriage Check-Ins
00:47:06 - Free Resources and Christian Counseling Support
00:51:50 - Understanding Your “Play Personality”
00:53:05 - Closing Q&A and Lighthearted Moments