Islamic Child Raising (Tarbiyah) | Part 12

🔴Video Timestamps On Part 12 of This Islamic Child Raising Lecture Series Below⬇️

Shaykh Usama Abdulghani gives priceless lessons and practical instructions on how to raise our children & families the right way, using the books of Shaykh Abbas Validi, a specialist in Islamic child raising.

00:00:00 – Tarbiyah as a Long-Term Amanah
Raising children is a trust from Allah that extends far beyond childhood. Games and play quietly shape discipline, character, and accountability for the sake of the akhirah.

00:06:30 – Early Habits Form Through Repeated Play
Children build habits through repetition long before formal instruction. The games they return to repeatedly shape patience, effort, and emotional regulation rooted in fitrah.

00:12:00 – Games That Teach Effort and Tangible Results
Games that produce visible outcomes train persistence and responsibility. Children learn that effort, by Allah’s design, leads to real consequences in the world.

00:18:00 – One-Man Games and the Loss of Cooperation
Solitary games weaken a child’s ability to work with others. Cooperative play trains shared responsibility, humility, and concern for others—qualities central to Islamic character.

00:24:00 – Healthy Competition Within Proper Boundaries
Competition, when guided correctly, builds resilience and discipline. Islam directs competition toward growth and righteousness, not ego or domination.

00:30:00 – Over-Control in Play Creates Power Struggles
Excessive control suffocates trust and breeds resistance. Islamic tarbiyah protects the heart while correcting behavior, rather than crushing the spirit.

00:36:00 – Freedom in Games Without Neglect
Children need space to choose and explore within clear limits. Freedom in Islam exists within boundaries that protect safety, dignity, and morality.

00:42:00 – Real Play Shapes the World Around the Child
Hands-on play allows children to affect their environment directly. Experiencing cause and effect nurtures confidence, responsibility, and reliance upon Allah’s order.

00:48:00 – Screens as a Dangerous Substitute for Engagement
Screens remove effort, presence, and real consequence. Over time, they replace meaningful interaction and weaken the child’s connection to reality.

00:54:00 – Video Games Break Cause and Effect
Digital games disconnect action from outcome. This distortion weakens patience, accountability, and the ability to endure struggle for Allah’s sake.

01:00:00 – Choosing Games That Require Cooperation
Team-based games train cooperation, empathy, and shared success. Children learn that strength is often found in unity, not isolation.

01:06:00 – Convenience That Spoils Independence
When effort is constantly removed, children lose capability. Islamic upbringing strengthens independence, not entitlement.

01:12:00 – Results-Oriented Play Builds Self-Reliance
Games that bear fruit strengthen confidence and self-reliance. Children learn they are capable of producing outcomes through effort and consistency.

01:18:00 – Presence During Play Communicates Value
Attention and encouragement during play nurture emotional security. Children feel honored and valued, which strengthens obedience from the heart.

01:24:00 – Balance Between Indoor and Outdoor Games
Indoor and outdoor play serve different needs. Balance restores emotional health and aligns with the natural rhythm Allah placed within children.

01:30:00 – Screens Competing With Parental Authority
Unchecked screens quietly shape habits and values. Without limits, they begin to replace parental guidance and moral influence.

01:36:00 – Sacrifice and Discipline Formed Through Play
Games train children to endure difficulty and delay gratification. These qualities prepare them for responsibility, patience, and sacrifice later in life.

01:41:00 – Inside-Out Tarbiyah and the Protection of Fitrah
Children are born upon fitrah. Parental choices—especially around play—either preserve that fitrah or slowly erode it.