Covert Control Explained: How Your Body Spots Manipulation Before Your Mind

🌿 Using Your Body as a Compass: Spotting Subtle Control in Relationships

Have you ever left a conversation feeling off—but couldn’t explain why until days later?

In this episode, we explore covert control in relationships and social interactions—especially how it shows up through tone, body language, pacing, and subtle power shifts, not just words.

This conversation is especially for folks who are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, neurodivergent, or living outside traditional relationship norms, where identity, language, and relationships are often questioned, corrected, or reframed “helpfully.”

You’ll learn how to:

Recognize covert control beyond words (tone, posture, timing, energy)

Understand why your body reacts before your mind can explain it

Use your nervous system as a compass instead of overriding yourself

Apply simple somatic micro-practices in real time

Track patterns using the BAN & BIAS Keys from the free Confidence Toolkit

Rebuild self-trust without confrontation, shutdown, or self-abandonment

This isn’t about blaming or diagnosing others.
It’s about listening to your body, collecting data, and restoring your autonomy with compassion.

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⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 Introduction: Recognizing Covert Control
01:38 Understanding Covert Control
02:43 The Confidence Toolkit: BAN & BIAS Keys
05:12 Practical Examples & Somatic Micro-Practices
10:03 Final Thoughts & Free Resources

💛 About Ray Life Coaching

Radically inclusive coaching for LGBTQ+, polyamorous, and folks ready to choose aligned love and life.
Helping you remember your body isn’t the problem—it’s the guide.

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