Covert Contracts Explained: Are You Giving Gifts With Strings Attached?

🎁 Covert Contracts Explained: Are You Giving Gifts With Strings Attached?

Have you ever given time, care, flexibility, or support—quietly hoping it would be returned in a specific way?

And then felt hurt, resentful, or unseen when it wasn’t?

That’s often a covert contract:
An unspoken agreement where giving comes with invisible strings attached.

In this episode, we explore how covert contracts show up during holidays, Valentine’s Day, New Year’s, family dynamics, friendships, work environments, and love relationships—especially for polyamorous, LGBTQ+, and non-normative folks who were often taught not to ask too much.

This video will help you:

Understand what covert contracts actually are
Recognize how “giving” can turn into resentment
Spot unspoken expectations before they explode
Move toward clarity, consent, and secure connection

This isn’t about blame.
It’s about self-trust, honesty, and freedom.

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⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 Understanding Holiday Disappointments
00:53 What is a Covert Contract?
01:32 The Impact of Covert Contracts
02:16 Covert Contracts in Different Relationships
04:28 Recognizing and Addressing Covert Contracts
07:26 Tools for Overcoming Covert Contracts
08:41 Common Covert Contracts in Holidays and Anniversaries
10:29 Steps to Self-Advocacy and Intimacy
13:38 Conclusion and Resources

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