PERFORMANCE ANXIETY in friendships + the importance of BREAKS in dating + cottage cheese | Ep. 21

EP #21 - Not for the Cottage Cheese Lobby
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Jess and Caroline unknowingly both show up to this episode with the same thoughts a-brewing underneath the surface, so a conversation about their dads' different takes on jokes quickly turns into a deeply intimate conversation. Caroline shares her ongoing struggle to separate her self worth from the quality of her interactions with other people, and Jess meets her right there, opening up about her people pleasing tendencies as tied to a fear of abandonment. They go back and forth about this pressure to perform or deliver in every social situation, and unpack the question that both of their therapists have offered on the matter: what if you didn't actually have to do anything? Moving right along: a petty complaint about "cultured" food trends like prebiotic sodas and cottage cheese, a quick question for Bugs Bunny, a dating update from Caroline, and a bone to pick with reality show podcasts from Jess. Basically, we’re scientists, and this is just an experiment where we explore all the things we’re doing wrong. Don’t steal our alternate podcast names/taglines, or maybe do, whatever, wdk.

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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro
00:25 - dad jokes
09:32 - a petty complaint (from a listener!)
13:40 - the problem with cottage cheese
20:35 - what's keeping Caroline up at night recently
28:20 - when you're lacking connection
35:00 - Jess' compulsion
41:53 - other names we wanted to title this podcast!!1
44:08 - we're confused about cartoons
46:25 - taking breaks from dating
50:30 - when your self-esteem TANKS
57:57 - Jess has an professional complaint
1:02:35 - if you're going through a breakup, you need this man
1:05:40 - Jess lied to Caroline
1:07:00 - if you think Caroline is intolerable, do this

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All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or mental health professionals, or really professional of any kind. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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