Stop Giving Grace to People Who Haven’t Earned It | Workplace & Beyond

Stop Giving Grace to People Who Haven’t Earned It | Workplace & Beyond


Grace should be earned, not handed out like Pokémon cards. Yet Black people — especially Black women — are constantly conditioned to forgive, “turn the other cheek,” and let mistreatment slide in workplaces, in public spaces, and even in the face of violence.

In this video, I break down why it’s time to STOP giving grace to people who haven’t earned it:
• Taylor Townsend vs. Ostapenko — why she carried herself with grace when the other player didn’t
• The double standards that keep Black women from ever being allowed visible anger
• How the pressure to “be forgiving” shows up at work, even after discrimination and abuse
• The truth about documenting workplace mistreatment instead of ignoring it
• Dylann Roof’s Charleston church massacre and the demand for forgiveness — even in tragedy

✨ This is exactly why I created the AntiHR Documentation Journal — because employees, especially Black women, aren’t documenting workplace abuse effectively. Don’t give anyone grace when they’ve disrespected you. Document it, keep it, and use it when it matters most.

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⚠️ Disclaimer: I am a licensed attorney, but this video does not provide legal advice and does not create an attorney-client relationship. The information shared is for educational purposes only. Outcomes cannot be guaranteed.

0:00 Stop giving out grace like Pokémon cards

0:20 Who I am & what AntiHR does

0:58 CTA: like, comment (constructively), subscribe, bell

1:16 Taylor Townsend disrespected by Jelena Ostapenko

1:56 “Apologies” without apologizing to Taylor

2:33 Double standard: why Taylor couldn’t show anger

3:31 Grace is for those who seek it (Demetria Lucas)

4:03 Workplace abuse story & the pressure to “give grace”

5:04 Conditioned to forgive mistreatment (especially Black women)

5:30 At work: don’t normalize it—document everything

6:19 Why I created the AntiHR Documentation Journal

6:55 Charleston: Dylann Roof at Emanuel AME (June 17, 2015)

7:35 The reflex to forgive = conditioning

8:23 Reject the “angry Black woman/dangerous Black man” lies

8:37 Grace is not free—it must be earned

8:53 Demand accountability; protect your peace

9:26 Join AntiHR Community + get the Documentation Journal

10:36 Closing: grace is for those who seek it

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