Why It Feels Like You've Lost Yourself: Shadow Work Explained (Step 2 | The Whole Soul Way™)

Does it feel like you've lost yourself? Like you don't know who you are anymore?

If you're always the "strong one," the "helpful one," or the "capable one"—but somewhere along the way you abandoned the real you—this episode is for you.

I'm breaking down shadow work for women who've lost themselves trying to be everything for everyone else, or from hiding behind a mask of strength while cutting off from their own needs.

As children, we learn quickly what wins love, acceptance, and approval—and what doesn't. Those unapproved parts get pushed into the shadows, creating fragmentation and a lifelong longing to feel whole again.

In this lesson from The Whole Soul Way, I guide you through shadow work, inner child healing, and how to reclaim the parts of yourself you've been hiding.

You'll learn:

🖤 What the shadow truly is—and why it's not your enemy
🖤 Why it feels like you've lost yourself (and where those parts actually went)
🖤 How hiding parts of yourself creates exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection
🖤 Why you can't receive help, set boundaries, or express your needs without guilt
🖤 The "cherished self" vs. the shadow self—and how both keep you fragmented
🖤 How to meet your hidden parts with compassion instead of shame
🖤 Real examples: the woman who lost her joy, the one with no backbone, and the one who can't be "needy"

This solves: Not knowing yourself anymore, chronic exhaustion from performing, inability to receive support, and guilt around having needs or expressing your truth.

You don't have to become what's in your shadow. You simply have to know it, see it, and reclaim it as part of your wholeness. That's the journey of The Whole Soul Way™—moving beyond fear and shame into authenticity and freedom.

If you're ready to come back to yourself—to reclaim the parts you've been hiding and finally feel whole again—this is your invitation.

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This lesson is part of The Whole Soul Way™ Foundational Course, and each lesson builds on the last, so if this is your first time here, you may want to start at the beginning (here's the playlist):    • The Whole Soul Way™ Foundations (FREE PROG...  


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